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You don't correct a person with Alz/dementia, so just let your sister be. If she's living alone & you're going over there a few times a day, that's likely not going to be enough once she reaches a certain stage; dementia can be quite dangerous & she can get into trouble in 2 seconds flat while alone. She can leave an empty pot on the stove & burn the house down, or wander away at 2 am if she thinks she doesn't live in her home but across the street or whatever. An overnight caregiver will become a necessity in short order, or placement in a Memory Care ALF.

I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (which is a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.

Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller 
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580

Here is a list of useful tips from her e-book I found to be excellent:

The “Dont's”
· Do not reason and argue
· Do not demand that they reason or problem-solve
· Do not demand that they remember
· Do not demand that they get their facts straight
· Do not correct their ideas or scold them
· Do not reorient them
· Do not think that they are being uncooperative on purpose
· Do not think that they really do remember, but are pretending not to
· Do not use a “bossy” dictatorial attitude in care
· Do not act with impatience

The "Do's"
· Enter into their frame of reality, or their 'world'
· Be aware of their mood or state of mind
· Use few words and simple phrases
· OR use no words, just friendly gestures and simple motions
· Do everything slowly
· Approach from the front
· Wait for a slow response
· Constantly reassure them that everything is 'OK'
· Keep people with dementia comfortable 'in the moment' - every moment
· Maximize use of remaining abilities
· Limit TV or radio programs which they may feel are frighteningly real
· Maintain privacy
· Provide a safe physical environment

Language Needs
· Use short words
· Use clear and simple sentences
· Speak slowly and calmly
· Questions should ask for a “yes” or “no” answer
· Talk about one thing at a time
· Talk about concrete things; not abstract ideas
· Use common phrases
· Always say what you are doing
· If they repeat their question, repeat your answer as you did the first time · Give them a longer time to process information
· Wait patiently for a response
· Be accepting of inappropriate answers and nonsense words
· Speak softly, soothingly and gently

Care Needs
· Recognize that receiving personal care feels intrusive
· Reassure with your tone and manner
· Do one thing at a time
· Talk through the care “play-by- play”
· Be aware of your body language and use it to communicate relaxation and reassurance
· Be sincere
· Use a soft, soothing touch
· Be aware of the individual’s unique triggers
· Be aware that a person with dementia may not accurately judge whether a situation is threatening to them
· They may respond to fear, pain or anxiety by defending themselves with what we call “aggression”
· If they become distressed, stop immediately and allow them time to calm down – don’t try to restart the activity right away
You need to change your behaviour to adapt to the dementia because the person with the disease cannot.

Another good book is Living in the Labyrinth: A Personal Journey Through the Maze of Alzheimer's, by Diana Friel

Best of luck coming up with a plan to keep your sister safe 24/7. It's a lot, I know. My mother lived in Memory Care Assisted Living for almost 3 years before she passed last month with advanced dementia. Things can get pretty bad pretty quick, so keep your eyes open & stay alert for changes.
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No need to correct her.
To correct her might lead to an "argument" and that will only upset and frustrate her. And you will find you never "win" an argument with a person that has dementia.
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Let it be, it’ll add to her confusion to be corrected repeatedly
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Let it be. There is no reasoning with dementia, and it’s not hurting anyone.
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Just let it be. As long as she is happy that is all that matters at this point.
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