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She has Diabetes, COPD, amputated toes on both feet and is legally blind. She's also had 4 strokes. She cannot get to the potty no matter who is trying to help her. She must go while in bed. We can't even come close to affording Skilled Nursing for her, but Medicaid gave her a "Period of Ineligibility". The facility that cares for her now will evict her next month. In the middle of a Global Pandemic, naturally. I'm completely alone with this, and I don't know where to turn. I would tend to her myself, but she is 3 times my weight. I'm afraid I'll injure her. Does anyone know anything about what to do now? This has been an uphill battle since the beginning of 2018. And her health is declining quickly. If I can't get her the proper care, I'm going to lose her! :’(

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I am very sorry, but is she ineligible because she gave money away?  Can you get it back?
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If she is 3x your weight, it's not about you injuring her. She will injure YOU.

Also... this is going to sound terribly insensitive, and please understand I am not trying to be mean or wish anything bad on your mother. But your last sentence concerns me. With all the problems your mother has... unfortunately, you ARE going to lose her, no matter what care she receives. Maybe hospice would be best?

73 is relatively young to have all the problems she's had. Has she been diabetic since childhood, or is it late onset? If she is 3x your size, I am assuming she is overweight? I realize she cannot move on her own. Is she on a strict diabetic diet?
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The facility she is in now cannot evict her to an unsafe environment. By law they cannot just throw her to the curb. I would suggest being proactive though, by talking to a good attorney, the ombudsman for the facility and your local area on aging and social services office. A good attorney, maybe one that specializes in cases for people with low income, legal aid perhaps, could offer assistance. And if you yourself are unable to provide safe care, they need to know that. You can refuse taking her to live with you. If you somehow end up doing that, you are going to need to call 911 early and often as needed. But be proactive now and make sure they follow safe discharge laws and your home is not going to be one of them.
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