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Just adding my vote to all the ones who are warning you that you will hurt yourself. Let him know in a calm, non-repair moment that his behavior is unacceptable when you express your feelings about doing repairs that are beyond your skill-set and strength. Let him know that you really cannot accept that anymore. Then if he acts out, leave the room, or go in the house depending on if you're outside. My husband is the fix-it guy around here. Just the thought of trying to do half of what he does is really scary to me. I am 60 and he is 63 -- we are on this forum because of his almost-88 mom and his 92 dad. But nuts and bolts get frozen. Lines under the sink get rusted. I have tried to do things before, and I often will end up with a "nope" because I do not have the strength. I told him a couple of years ago that I am not, in fact, a man. I was always his "helper" when we had to move furniture, push the car in the driveway, etc. I helped him carry a generator and ended up needing to see a chiropractor because of muscle strain in my neck and shoulders. Only you can take care of you in this situation.
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Get yourself a good, expensive manicure. Next time he suggests you lever up floorboards and grab a wrench, hold up your hands in the style of a Mavala advert and say "don't be ridiculous." Make those nails good for nothing but dialling your friendly neighbourhood tradespersons.

[This assumes, of course, that you don't actually enjoy the occasional DIY, gardening or mechanics project? Personally I quite do, but I know where to draw the line - and making a potential hash of repairing a toilet is *definitely* over the line.)
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Lots of great advice, Judy. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ll bet you do everything else around the house, too, like cooking, cleaning, maintenance, financials, and so on. You must be exhausted.

You matter too. Your health matters. It’s past time for your husband to realize it and SUPPORT YOU. Say or do what it takes for him to realize it, even if it’s reminding him of any pertinent wedding vows. If he tantrums, walk away and call a professional.

You matter, Judy.
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I think you should tell him that he can't expect you to handle all the repairs all by yourself and that you will need to be able to hire someone to come in and do repairs and stress the point that he just can't do them anymore.
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I guess I'm a bit harder on this subject. If my husband can't fix it I'm going to call a repairman. I'm not a handy women n I don't want to be one. He can have a fit but the repair person is coming in. Thats what I do though we don't have fits the checkbook just comes out. Stand strong do not let him make you do anything like that. Tell him there is no choice if he can't fix it then another Man will. Not this women. Good luck but I believe once you stand your ground he'll back down n if not you write the check.
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Judy, Judy, Judy...
It can't be pleasant for you to be instructed step-by-step on how to do a job that is beyond your capabilities, by a husband who has tantrums.

I don't think a husband with tantrums is covered in the bible.
Maybe go back and ask the pastor to send a handi-worker (volunteer) to your home.
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Judy - my mouth dropped to the floor when I read "...my husband refused to accept a couple of jobs because employers weren`t willing to start him at his former salary. It seemed so unfair that I worked two jobs and he was turning down jobs...Our pastor advised me that I should honor my husband's place as 'head of the house'..." Talk about misogyny!
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