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I can guarantee you will be sorry if you take her home with you, even "temporarily". Somehow elders with memory issues, and other problems often take over the house and everything becomes all about them. Then comes other problems; resentment from the family members, overwork on you - all kinds of stuff. Please have her wait it out in her own home if at all possible until the room at the AL or MC becomes available.
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Could you please stop going by on Saturdays? Nobody, including you, should cross your mother's threshold unless they have a good enough reason for being there.

Food deliveries and storage, household cleaning and health care support are good enough reasons if she's unable to manage these unassisted or without prompting. But that's what the Visiting Angels are for. You shouldn't be going at all.

Remember: this is not forever. It is an incredibly difficult time, it is bound to be a challenge explaining to your mother why you are staying away, but she will come to no lasting harm and it is the right thing to do. For HER welfare.
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Leave her where she is!! You can always get FMLA if you want to take care of her sometimes. That way you won’t lose your job. I have FMLA for my mother. I use it as I need it.
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Make sure you keep your job and keep working as long as possible. If you lose your job or are laid off, your entire family will be worse off, not just your mother. Wait it out where she is.

Keep in touch with the facility of your choice and let them know as soon as they have an opening, your mother will be moving there. She may need more than just assisted living if she has memory issues. My mother was immediately transferred to memory care after dad passes away in their AL apartment. Without him there, she was physically able but her memory rendered her non-functional without full time supervision.
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Have you looked into any of the methods for visiting with her (and checking up on her) virtually? We have 3 Echos now at my moms, (different versions and only use the video on 2) that allow us to be in contact with her visually throughout the day without her having to even answer a call and she often forgets we aren’t actually in the house and room with her. Nice for all of us. It might be a way to milk out the time your mom has in her townhouse until some of this Corona curtailing subsides. The ability to visually visit with her along with the Visiting Angels hands on visits might just work at least for the time being.
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acharlot Apr 2020
That's a great idea! I was thinking of getting her the Grandpad by Consumer Cellular but feared it may also be too complicated for her to figure out how to use and it doesn't require an in-home internet connection.

I suspect you would need an in-home internet connection with the echos, is that correct?
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Anger is part of the desease. Keep things the way they are. Not sure with the newer TVs, but the old ones you could pick the channels you wanted to watch. Like a child saftey thing. Pick channels that show all the old shows like Cozi and MeTV. Delete the ones that seem to have news all the time, like Fox.

I realize that we r in a Pandemic but like everything else, the news has to overdue it.
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Definitely do not move her into your home.
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Leave her where she is. This is only temporary. She can be angry all she wants and unfortunately she will still be angry in your home. Moving her isn’t a “magic pill”.
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