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NHWM, that's a very sad wrong story with that nurse and of course she should have been held responsible and fired. I sometimes encounter doctors that I find less sympathetic and that can be hard to put in a survey. I had 2 unpleasant nurse stories decades ago but it was an attitude issue. I should have spoken up but was young,sick and or in a weakened state. I would never let myself to be spoken to that way now.
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Need, never mind fired. That nurse was lucky she wasn't prosecuted. To quote a delightful young Asian doctor explaining the point on '24 Hours in A&E' before he carried out an aspiration procedure: "I can't just stick a needle in a man's chest without his consent. That would be assault, and I could get arrested."
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River and CM,

You both make good points. River, yeah I know what you mean about being younger and dealing with things. We don’t have the life experience behind us plus I was dealing with the emotional roller coaster of dealing with my fertility issues.

I went through three in vitro fertilization procedures that weren’t successful.

I had surgery that was one for the text books. Three specialists were consulted on my case and it was filmed so medical students could learn from it. I had endometriosis along with other complications.

We think it’s our God given right that we will be able to have children and end up feeling like damaged goods when we can’t have a baby. It’s really tough struggling with fertility issues.

CM,

Yeah, my husband was really upset with that nurse. She was standing behind me. It’s a long needle so it has to be injected in the hip. I’ve never weighed more than 105 lbs so I don’t have any fat on me. I feel needle sticks.

I felt the needle go into my hip. She was mad at me when I told her she was giving me too much medicine when she announced the dosage. She got offended that I questioned her then jabbed the needle into my hip. I was concerned but didn’t know it was life threatening until the doctor told me in his office.

Thank God the next morning when the doctor ordered more lab work my results had improved, otherwise he would have had to admit me in the hospital to try and treat it. He said that had only happened to one other patient and she nearly died.

I do want to say that I have the utmost respect for nurses and the work that they do. She was the only one in his office that treated me like that.

I was a long time patient, four years and the rest of the staff treated me very well. It was just that one nurse. She had a horrible attitude and personality. At least she did lose her job and couldn’t do that to anyone else.

We ended up adopting our first daughter. Then seven years later I got pregnant out of the blue. It was a horrible high risk pregnancy with more specialists and an emergency C section. I feel like both of my daughters are miracles.

River,

I like the comment my wise grandpa used to say, “Doctors bury their mistakes!”
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NHWM, I am so sorry for all you have been through certainly with your mother and brothers. I am so glad you have your daughters and supporting husband.

Regarding my jaw I didn't want to bore anyone as I have mentioned it here but I went through a root canal and was not given any antibiotics. I am 63. 3 days later I woke to one side of my face completely swollen. Then I was put on a mild one and the endodontist worked on the area which was showing obvious infection. He installed a drain in that area. Nothing was changing. 2 days later he switched to a stronger antibiotic. He continued to work on the area for another week. It was extremely painful. Finally after a week he said the tooth had to be extracted. It was but the infection had spread and the 2 teeth next to it also had to be extracted. The oral surgeon kept me on the stronger antibiotic and then he also had to install another drain. A month later the area became swollen again. He went back in under anesthesia. When I came to he said the jaw had fractured. I was then sent to the dental college in my area. The top surgeon said he was admitting me within a couple of days. This had now entered into a medical issue rather than a dental one. Much dead bone had to be removed. I was in surgery for 3 hours. A plate and screws were put in in place of bone that was removed. I was on a PICC line for 6 weeks dealing with infections disease specialists. I am left with an indentation on one side,a lip that droops and alot of numbness. I recently came to find out that the mother of the woman who cuts my hair had root canal surgery by him and also was not prescribed antibiotics. She had to insist on them after hearing my story. If I eat anything but the softest of food I end up biting my lip as it gets in the way since it aligns now with remaining bottom teeth. Needless to say I would like this guy out of business

My two nurse stories. I had my first child at 24. I had never been around babies. After learning about the proper way to change diapers I did one night after nursing my daughter. The night nurse came in and upon hearing that I had changed her basically chastised me as they wanted to weigh her with a wet diaper. It was the middle of the night and I was exhausted. She had been a normal birth weight. My self now wishes I had said "dont you dare speak to me that way". Bad nurse story number 2. Now i am in my early 30's. I had just had emergency abdominal surgery as my intestines had become partially detached from each other. During the week i was hospitalized my period started again in the middle of the night. A nurse comes in and sees the blood on the bed and says"that is so disgusting". How did I allow myself to be spoken to that way. I just know both times I was very vulnerable and shocked I was being treated this way. For these times I wish I had the surveys.

I appreciate all you offer to this forum and hope you find solace with those that have come to know your story and keep you in their thoughts. There are so many here who have endured so much emotional pain. Your story and Mid's come to mind often although I know there are many others who endure so much with parents and less than stellar siblings. I just think all we can do is try to focus on the good we might have in our lives and commend ourselves for survival tactics. You certainly are a great example of that.
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River,

Wow! I am flabbergasted by that dentist and the nurses. You just proved without a shadow of doubt that there are good and bad in ALL professions, right? That makes me furious! I’m so sorry you went through those experiences.

You are right. We learn to be grateful for the good things in our lives and that does become what is most important. I love MidKid as well. She has been such an incredible inspiration to me. She’s amazing! She’s much to modest to admit that but I can say it.

You are an inspiration for not being bitter about those things but I get it about not wanting people like that in the medical field.

I would never want someone to lose a job unjustly. I know that you wouldn’t either but some people don’t belong in their line of work and I was relieved when the nurse was fired. That dentist should lose his medical license.
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Riverdale, after reading the events surrounding your root canal and resulting complications, I do, even though I rarely believe, that you do have a case for medical malpractice.

I can't imagine a competent dentist not providing anesthesia for a root canal, or something like an extraction.   They're challenging and painful.

But I would at least file a complaint with the state dental association, and get started on getting this guy out of business.   

You might also search online to see if there are other malpractice suits against him.   You might be surprised to find there are.
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I agree 100 percent with GA, Riverdale. Please take steps to get him out! He should never be working on anyone’s mouth ever again.

I want you to tell everyone when he loses his license. I also agree that you have an extremely valid reason to sue.

My now deceased SIL sued her radiologist and hospital and won well over a million dollars. She was married to my youngest brother. She went for her mammogram and she did have a malignancy but the hospital failed to tell her about it. She was not a ‘sue happy’ type but she had a valid reason to sue. She was raising two young children and had to quit working when she discovered the cancer. She had a strong case and won.

She detected the tumor while bathing in the shower. It went into stage four. She had bone marrow transplant, both breasts removed and she opted to do breast reconstruction. She was very brave. She went through all of this alone because my brother had an affair while she was in treatment for cancer and divorced her so he could marry the woman he was having the affair with. He totally checked out during her illness.

Ironically, she fought the cancer and beat it, only to die later with lung cancer. She had been a smoker since she was 15.
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A robot will never be able to go give the love, hugs and compassion a human being needs to survive. However, technology will go a long way in meeting patients needs for exercise, transport, memory, etc.
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humes,

Many would agree with you. A robot cannot give human interaction. They can fulfill some tasks but not replace a human in that regard. Thanks for your response.
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